How to avoid polarity problems

Polarized people focus on cycling their energy flow in a single direction, much like a current flowing through an electrical circuit. The important thing is to maintain the flow, which requires considering the big picture of the whole circuit.

Lightworker syndrome is what happens when a lightworker focuses on giving to the exclusion of all else, ultimately crippling his/her capacity to give. These are the people with really big hearts who give, give, give to the point of exhaustion. They haven’t yet learned the importance of balancing production with production capacity. Lightworkers must learn to balance their giving with receiving to the degree it increases their capacity to give. This is a more intelligent form of giving than burning out from giving too much. But instead of mixing polarities, the true intention is always on increasing one’s capacity to give. For an intelligent lightworker, even receiving becomes an expression of giving.

In truth a lightworker who fails to receive is using fear energy by mistake. The inability to take time for themselves is rooted in a fear of being perceived as selfish. So without knowing it, they’re actually calling upon fear energy, which slowly corrupts the flow of their love energy. Consequently, lightworker syndrome isn’t caused by excessive love. It’s caused by the hidden application of fear energy.

Darkworker syndrome is what happens when a darkworker becomes too power-hungry and ends up self-destructing. The collapse of Enron is a good example… greed to the point of implosion. Darkworkers must learn to balance their acquisitions with some form of contribution, to the extent that it increases their long-term capacity to gain more power. A darkworker who only takes and never gives will quickly lose the cooperation of others and will manifest emboldened competition. Overtly “evil” behavior does not befit an intelligent darkworker. When a darkworker gives, the true intention remains focused on long-term power gain, so giving is still a completely selfish act. For a darkworker giving is seen as good PR.

A darkworker who fails to embrace “selfish giving” is using love energy by mistake. The darkworker who commits too many evil yet unproductive acts secretly wants to self-destruct, so that s/he can finally begin making amends to relieve a guilty conscience. Guilt has no place in a darkworker’s soul, and its presence is the sign of the hidden application of love energy.

Whichever polarity you choose, it’s important to remain cognizant of your own shadow. Persistent negative emotions are a sure sign you’re mixing polarities.

Your true intentions

When you look deep within yourself, what do you see staring back at you? Are you a lightworker in the making, or does the dark side call to you?

While words like light/dark and love/fear obviously have major social conditioning attached to them, it’s best to view each polarity as equally valid and acceptable. Judging these polarities as good or evil is out of line with their actual practice. I assert that the good polarity is the one that’s best for you, and the evil polarity is pretending to be something you’re not. Don’t resist who you really are.

If you’re feeling that being a darkworker would be wrong or evil, consider that a darkworker can end up making a much bigger social contribution than a non-polarized person, even though contribution isn’t his/her primary concern. So don’t beat yourself up if you feel drawn to this polarity.

While you don’t have to polarize anytime soon, for the best results you should eventually polarize with whichever side you find most attractive. Which side is more appealing to you? What kind of life do you want to experience?

Selecting a polarity needn’t be a lifetime commitment. I suggest you pick whichever polarity seems most natural to you, and give it a 30-day trial. Do your best to embrace the lightworker or darkworker mindset, and see what it feels like to make polarized decisions. At the end of the 30 days, decide whether you want to continue with that polarity, or give the opposite polarity a 30-day trial. Switching polarities isn’t easy, since you’ll have accrued some momentum with your first choice, so you may want to take a week or two to rest in neutrality before tackling the second trial.

If you do take on this trial, I encourage you to share your experiences, observations, and insights in the forums. It will help others decide which polarity most appeals to them.

As you begin to apply polarized thinking to your career, you’ll begin to see just how useful it is. You’ll find it easier to relate to your co-workers and associates as you gain an understanding of their position on the polarity spectrum. And most importantly, you’ll find yourself feeling more motivated and driven to act, either because you’re transcending fear or conquering it.

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