How to fall in love with someone
I decided to give tips on "how to fall in love with someone" because one of my readers told me she has been living with a guy next door for some time now and this boy has been showering her with lot of love and concern while on the other side, she believes the guy does not match but something in her inner-self keeps telling her to love him anyway. After I went through her mail I noticed that her biggest problem was not that she did not like the guy but how she can develop some kind of love for him. In her mail she mentioned "I really don't know what love is, I don't know how to feel love for someone." She also admitted that the boy is handsome and has been so nice to her but her problem was how to love him in return.
What she is now experiencing has happened to many of us if not directly, in other forms. At one point in our lives we have come across a situation where we really wanted to show at least a bit of love or concern to someone who deserves it but due to some factors hindering this, we tend to be amiss in the eyes of these people. And this is what I will be talking about in this article, I will tell you some of the ways by which you can develop love for someone even if you did not like the person at first.
How love can be programmed
They’re many websites claim to tackle this issue while at the end giving tips to a different problem. Some of them have no backing and the others; traditional advices. You can find them all over the internet but as a psychologist, I recommend using scientific methods since science explains the human relationships, behavior, their interactions and this same science defines what really love is and how it's developed.Since love is an emotional need developed for someone depending on many factors, still we can still control it. This is nothing more than considering the person to match our love criteria. This is completely possible provided that we follow just the right pace.
For example, if among your love criteria you put much emphasis on resourcefulness and you discovers that your catch is not up to the level, then reducing much emphasis on this criteria for a partner/match/soul mate will definitely result in having love for him since what hindered this love was resourcefulness and it has been eliminated or reduced. I believe there’re many ways in which one can develop love for someone even if it was someone who use to ignore or put us down.
How to fall in love with someone
The following methods are backed by relationship psychology and human behavioral science. They’re going to act as some king of emotional support in falling in love with someone if just you apply them well right? The first if:
- Motivating him to be a perfect march: In one of my book How to make someone fall in love with youI explained why we don't fall in love with anyone but with certain people who appear to march our love criteria. From the illustration, you can see that a person will only fall in love with someone when he marches these qualifications and this is where "how to fall in love with someone" comes in. If he does not match your criteria, then you have to motivate some aspects of your life style in order for you to match and this is nothing more than accepting him for who he is. This way you will be drown to him and this is very effective not only because he is now close to you but also due to the fact that you start developing love.
- Clearly show your love: Making your love clear is nothing more than convincing your subconscious mind to believe your love for the person. There's a way of doing this because you can't just tell yourself that 'I love him' and expect your subconscious mind to believe. No. That is not how it works. Yes, it’s true that telling yourself that “I love xx” can be used as a start but research proved that when a person starts convincing people of an idea he also tends to believe it. This means that if you can manage to tell the person face-to-face that 'I love you' or by using other words, your subconscious mind will believe that you actually love him/her.
- Visualize about the person: In one of my articles How to forget someone you love, I said that if you managed to stop visualizing or thinking about someone, you start forgetting about him but in this situation is the reverse. If you managed to think and visualize about this person often, dining together, doing things together, making fun, how life will be with him, then within the shortest possible time you will completely fall in love with him. It sounds somehow but that’s how it goes.
- Stay by his sight: Based on psychology, when we start starring at someone for an extended period of time, we tend to find the person interesting compared to the first meeting and the same thing happens when we start over looking someone. To put this short, you have to make a time to always be with him if really you want to show this love.
As you see from the above steps, falling in love with someone is not difficult or something that has to do with lucks. It’s just about, knowing who you are, what you want, knowing what to do, following the right path, and arriving to your goal. Isn’t that simple?
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