How to know true love
If there is one bit of unchallenged information I have about true love is that, any relationship based on selfishness or secrecy is bound to fail without doubt. To the best of my knowledge, I know that love is not somebody's privacy but rather love is what you share with your partner like showing what you feel about him, your emotions, thoughts, life experiences etc.
Now, how can someone expresses his love when on the other side he keeps things private? And this is what most cheaters do to their partners. They keep things just to their selves and at times they even choose to hide things like their contacts #, mails, associates, calls, making late night calls etc. You can still use this illustration of cheaters to define what true love is. In order to know if it's true love, you have to spot out if any of these cheaters' traits exist in your relationship or not.
True love and first sight.
Internet, television, novels, and movies have made some of us believe that love at first sight likely last forever. Some authors and film writer go as far as programming our minds as to believe that love at first sight ends up as couple. Yes it's very true that sight attraction is what starts most relationships but at the same time, is it not impossible to see someone's personality just by sight view?
Therefore falling in love with someone for the first time and considering it as true love because he matches some of your present criteria doesn't mean you can predict the nature of the relationship. That is weird!! That happens only in what we see on screens. It takes a little more time to predict true love.
Let me give you an example of my friend Helmut way back in high school. He met Annet at an end of year party and was badly crazy the way she smiled, talked, and how her hair stumbled over when she laughed. My friend immediately knew she was the one. After some weeks later, they started dating, getting closer to each other. One day, Helmut said "The more I get closer to her, the more I became worried. Worried the way she behaves around her parents and others. Sometimes I feel like turning my back when I noticed who her friends were and her intention towards our relationship" That did not surprise me because it was not the first time I've come across such event but what really touches me was when he said "You just can't determine what love is from the start"This phrase touched me because my friend at first though he was into real love relationship only to later discovered that the degree of love he expressed was never returned. At a certain level, their relationship was sure to end because they both met only the outer shell.
What do you know about your partner?
A person can't just tell you that "this is what I am". It takes time and patient to know someone you are in love with and this also gives you the chance to determine the nature of the relationship. True love does not just happen overnight nor is the person who would make a good match necessarily be someone you find overwhelmingly attractive. True love does not hurt by time. So the best way to test someone's love is to let some time to pass by and this is so because during this period, you will be examining who he is and his personalities as well.
How to know true love
In order to distinguish between true love and infatuation, you are going to be the judge here and the following questions are what you are going to pass your judgment based on either 'yes' or 'no':
- Is your partner unselfishly caring about the interest of others?
- Is effect on you that it makes you a better person?
- Did romance starts slowly taking months or years?
- Are you attracted to the other person's total personality and spiritual goals (so as your partner)?
- Do you view the him/her realistically?
- Does he/she sees your mistakes yet loving you anyway?
- Do you both equally give and share together?.
It does not end there, after examining the above, you will automatically generate certain questions to start wondering on. I hope you must have gotten them by now? If not, you should be asking yourself simple questions such as:
- Does he/she happy of me or our relationship?
- What are his/her plans behind our relationship?
- Does he/she show concern in my viewpoints?
- Is he/she eager for the success of my plans?
- Has he/she pressured you to do something meaningful?
- Does this person turn to build me up in front of others in my absence?
By now you must have answered these two section questions right? What are your answers? If most of them match "yes" then it is without doubt that your partner and the relationship involved are genuine (true love). But remember that the more of the "yes", the higher your chances ok?
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