How to recover from breakups
In the past, breakups lasted for long when we had no clue why we fall in love and the things that cause breakups in most relationships. However, today, it takes less than 14days for anyone to recover from breakup if he or she does not follow the wrong steps. Although itís but normal to feel hurt after breakup, still what is not very normal is when the feelings grow uncontrollable and this is what I am going to be addressing in this article, how to recover from unwanted feeling and thoughts.
Why hurt after breakups?
As humans, we have different feelings we experienced after breakups depending on how we consider our partners or the relationships to be. But one thing some people never realized is the real cause of their paints after breakups. They failed to understand that their feeling bad is not because they missed their partners but because they depended on their relationship. Below are some of the factors which can cause a breakup and how to recover from it.
How to recover from breakupsRecovering from breakup starts with no hope If you want to recover from breakup, you must first believe that the relationship is over and that there is no way you can ever be together before the recovering process can take place. Have you ever wondered why people quickly recover from the death of their loved ones more than breakup? Why people recovered after the death of their loved ones is that they don't denial the reality of the death, but instead, they believed he is death, gone and can't be brought back, so their minds begin the recovering process and same thing happens in relationship breakups. If you can managed to tell the person face-to-face that the relationship is over or convince yourself that they is no hope of being together, then your subconscious mind will believe and starts the healing process. Before you know, the feelings will vanish just like that.
False belief about soul mate/the one
What I meant here by false belief about the one is when someone completely considers his partner as the only match for him. This is one of the mistakes people do that hinder them from recovery. For instance, if breakup strikes, it will be difficult for them to get over it since they regarded their partners to be the only match.
If this is your situation, the only thing to do is to call some of your good friends and go somewhere nice where you can have a good time and catch some fun. You will come to meet new faces and will certainly realize that this person was not the only one who can love and make you happy. You may also realized that he/she was not the only beautiful/handsome person around, else everyone would have been running after him/her.
We have different love criteria which when looking for a lover or partner, we unconsciously expect to see them before we can fall in love. If your old partner matches 60% of your love criteria and you found someone who matches more even 65%, definitely you will automatically find him more attractive than the old person right?.
Relationship dependency is with the case where someone jumps into a relationship just to feel good or accepted by others. People at times find pleasure and excitement in relationships. They believe they are in true love but unconsciously aware that, they depended on the relationships to feel happy. However, when breakup coincidentally occurs, such people will go back to their previous mode of life because of relationship dependency. So in order to get over it, you must be on your own and this is nothing more than reflecting way back to see where you need his support and tackle it.
For example, if you discovered that he was a friend, then getting another friend will drive the feelings. if you realized that he was a source of your financial issues, then getting a job will let you forget about him. If you noticed that he was a companion, then getting another partner will let you get over him. If you realized where your problem is coming from and tackle it, within no time, you will totally forget about him since you no longer need his/her presence in your life.
Another way to quickly recover could be to identify the things that let you into the relationship and solve them because that is where the problem is coming and not the relationship. Just reflect way back to see you got into it because of friends influence, prestige, to proof to others etc. By identifying and solving your real problem, you will not only recover from the breakup fast but also forget about him as well.
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